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The Harsh Reality of Female Orgasm
Pretty little lies

It seems to me that women were born to lie about their sexual life, especially about the climax.

But hey, since I am also a woman, I will reveal the harsh reality of female orgasm.

I have wanted to do this for a very long time. I thought about it so many times. I wondered why no one dared to open up. We lie to ourselves, to other women, and to our partners. One worse than the other. 

When we lie to ourselves, it is because we don’t know how to put ourselves first, and we don’t understand how the truth is more in our favor than a lie. 

We lie to other women because we have a big ego, and we want to show how good, successful, and accomplished we are in our sex life. 

I can’t tell you how many times I have heard, “I have sex five times a day, and every time I come 20 times”… ok you horny animal, save it :))) And I hear this more from women than men :)) 

And ultimately, when we lie to our partners, we are afraid they might not understand, hurt their feelings, or not care or do anything about it.

Don’t ever underestimate men. They might ignore details and live in their own world, but they ain’t no fools. 

How can a man know what we enjoy if we don’t say anything? If you told him and he doesn’t put in the effort, shame on him. If it’s you that doesn’t mention anything, shame on you. 

And what is worse – he is trying to please you, asks you if it’s ok, it is actually not, but you confirm, probably just to move on and let it go. 

Let me tell you something. Most men do a decent job while they go down there. But how many really make you climax? I reckon 1 out of 10. Maybe.

And the other nine men will think you did it anyway because you facked it. 


  1. Men don’t know what to do when it comes to oral sex. By the way – a piece of advice – fast(er) is not better. 
  2. Women fake – most women.
  3. I don’t know if vaginal orgasm truly exists. If it does, girls, please let me know, and if you are planning to lie, don’t bother answering my question. Be honest for once. But for sure, the clitoral one is the champion, and it DOES exist. 


  1. In pursuit of finding that vaginal orgasm, keep exploring your sexuality
  2. Keep trying on things with your partner – whatever makes you happy could take you to a climax. 
  3. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, what you like and what you don’t like. Communication is the key, remember?
  4. Get an intimacy coach, therapist, or expert if needed. There is no shame in it, and it tremendously helps. 

The truth is we are embarrassed to open up about our private life. And I am not saying to take a microphone and start talking about what you do in bed in front of 3,000 people. 

Just discuss these aspects with your partner or a coach. You will be surprised to see that your sex life will tremendously improve.

Even me right now. As open and outspoken as I am, I wonder if I should finish this article, publish it and most importantly, “should I rewrite it and make it sound different because maybe I am revealing too much?. Hell no, better an honest conversation than hiding behind the bush like we do most of the time. 

I appreciate honest women. The ones that stand and speak their truth. Lying and bragging will never be in our favor, and surely it won’t bring us closer to orgasming. 

So stop pretending and start talking. 

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